Week 4- Change the endings of your dreams (for Maladaptive Daydreaming)

Honestly when I tried to change the endings nothing happened. Changing the endings of the daydreams made me want to daydream even more. Again, I would become self-aware so at that point I’m done dreaming. It’s almost like I kept having dreams to make up for that dream.

Trying to change every single dream I have makes me dream more. It took more time trying to figure out different endings and in my head i would be like, “what if they all exploded”. And they do. But here I am dreaming about a different ending after that one. Like, I know it’s all my imagination so I can do whatever I want with no consequences and that’s part of why I dream. There are no consequences. I can do anything, life will go my way. Everything is perfect.

One thing that I started to say (because I was getting frustrated) is:

It’s not real, It’s just your imagination.

All this did was make me feel worse, I have to remember to go easy on myself.

The next thing I’m going to try will be focusing on an object like a chair or a table in order to remind myself to be present.

I’m going to be moving the updates to my Tumbler since they have been getting shorter!

Week 2 “Say it out loud” for Maladaptive Daydreaming

Last week I talked about how little journaling helped with Maladaptive Daydreaming and how meditating has decreased my dreams and increased awareness of living in the present moment.

This week, I’ve been working on saying my daydreams out loud. There are multiple reasons as to why this method was absolutely useless to me.

  • I don’t control when I start daydreaming. It just happens.
  • When I became aware I was daydreaming and I started to say it out loud, I just stopped. There was no way to continue the dream out loud because most of the time when I dream, I’m on autopilot. It’s like watching TV in my head.
  • It’s was weird trying to say the dream out-loud when you live in a house with multiple people. If I wanted to say what I was dreaming I would have to only do it in my room. At that point, the dream would be over.

Though I couldn’t day dream out loud, I could encourage myself to stay focused on the present by just saying encouraging words to myself or comforting myself by saying things like, “It’s ok, just stay focused, everything will be ok”.

Being kinder to yourself while you’re dealing with self-improvement is important. If I shame myself, I never get anywhere.

This week, I’m going to try to daydream in fast forward.

I don’t know exactly how that is going to work for me since the awareness of daydreaming stops my daydreams, but I’ll give you a summary next week.

My journey with maladaptive daydreaming

Hi, I struggle with Maladaptive Daydreaming. I wanted to share this because this is what my blog is supposed to be about. I want to talk about my journey through life and connect with other people in their journeys.

What is Maladaptive Daydreaming (MD)?

Healthline.com defines Maladaptive daydreaming as a psychiatric condition that causes intense daydreaming that distracts a person from their real life.

I never realized I had this problem until I saw a Tumblr post about it. Honestly, I thought it was normal.

For a while I thought I had all these dreams because I secretly wanted to be an actress. But I soon realized that I actually wanted to be someone else. I didn’t want to be an actress for a job, I just want to be a different person in day to day life.

Every time I daydreamed about I found out about this made me more aware of how I depended on MD to get through my life. I’m getting to a point in my life where I want to start living my actual life instead of my pretend lives and it takes more that just prayer.

It may take medication, and that’s ok. But either way, I want to be content with where I am in life. So I have to face this issue head on.

During my search of MD I came to a website called: maladaptivedaydreamingisreal.com

I learned MD is an addiction used to cope with things I’m going through in life. I also found some tips that can help control or get rid of MD.

The first tip is to write down and keep track of your thoughts. Then analyze what you think they mean.

The second tip is meditation. Which I try to practice weekly, but I’m planning on doing it daily.

So this week, I’m going try this to see if it works. I’m going to be using the Headspace app for help with meditating and if I want journal prompts I’m going to use the app jour.

Next Monday I’ll tell you about my progress.

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